To confess or not to confess

On this week's episode of Grey's Anatomy there's a betrayal. It involved a bottle of bourbon and sex. Lots of sex. Lots of great adulterous sex. They didn't see it coming. It's not like they planned it to happen. But it did, and it was a mistake. People. makes. mistake.

Then there's this question about what to do next. As Christina put it some weeks ago, when we betray each other, the path to recovery is less clear. Should you confess and hurting the one person who is always encouranging, believing and supporting you? Can you justified clearing your conscience at somebody's expense by confessing? Should you just confess and bear the consequences?

Or should you just keep it a secret and live with it? After all, ignorance is bliss.

Seriously, maybe you need to ask some advice from someone who have been touched by evil or whatever, as you are and make it back alive. Maybe from their story you can find your way to deal with your mistake.

The thing is, secret kills intimacy. You need to share important information with the one you want to connect on a deeper level. Of course there is a chance that that person will reject you, but at least you know if he sticks around he accepts you as you are. Damaged, flawed, and all.

So, what would you have done, to confess or not to confess?