Tuesday, May 04, 2010

on Grief

At some point in our lives, we grief. It's something that we humans have in common, even though it looks different for everyone. Not only we grief over death. We grief for change. We grief for our loss. Loss of loved ones, loss of someone or something that we forged a bond with.

Our grief is unique. It comes in its own time, in its own way. When it hurt so much and you thought you cant take it anymore, remember that it too will pass. Dont know how, dont know when, but somehow one day it will. We just need to learn to ride it. Because the worst part of grief is we cant control it. All we can do is to feel it when it comes, be honest about it and let it go when we can.

There are times when we thought we pass it, the grief comes back with vengeance. Grief takes time. But dont let it consumed you, because you are braver than you believe and stronger than you think.

Elisabeth K├╝bler-Ross said there are five stages of grief,they look different on any of us:
denial,
anger,
bargaining,
depression,
and acceptance.

1 comment:

colson said...

Yes,our grief is unique. But what we all share is the attempt to make sense of the loss. Or to recognize there is no sense. Either option is hard.

That's the moment when some resort to resignation. Others indulge in activity. But in the end fortunately most of us fully recover.