Friday, September 16, 2011


When I grew up we were told Indonesian is very nice and polite.
The longer I live in Indonesia the more I believe it was a myth.
I've never been angrier before I moved back to Indonesia.

I'm tired of dealing with backstabbers.
I'm tired of dealing with hypocrites.
I'm tired of dealing with ungrateful people.
I'm tired of dealing with crappy people.
Especially the one with (little) power.
Dead tired.

This place drains me.

ps: I know you gonna say they are every where. Yes. It's just I've met them heaps over here.


colson said...

I know it's a lame comment to say bastards are everywhere. And I will not add fundamentally irrespective of creed, race, culture a population always consists of the same % of great and the same % of evil people.

But as the Dutch myth is we are world-champion rudeness, boorishness and impudence ( and actually we are generally not very good at the finesse of social behaviour) the reality is much less worse than expectation.

But perhaps the national myth of Indonesian politeness and savoir vivre provides a painful contrast to reality.

Because, yes, I gather it is essentially a myth which mainly is supported by widespread superficial and flimsy face-to-face courtesy only.

So probably Indonesian reality ( that includes the usual 5 - 10 % bastards) can't liven up to the mythical expectations.

PS: Since you lived in the NW you may try some of Lowland's rude, straight put downs to deal with this backstabbers, hypocrites, ungrateful and crappy lot. Might be an upsetting but instructive surprise to them, coming from a very civilized lady :).

PPS: Have a great, relaxing weekend.

H. Nizam said...

I am glad you didn't mention, explicitly, that you are tired of being an Indonesian.

The reason that we have the slogan Bhineka Tunggal Ika is because our founding fathers(and mothers?) think (admitted?) that we are not united.

And "Pancasila" because actually we are not as mentioned in the 5 principles.

In spite of the above, I prefer to remain positive and optimistic that we will improve our quality. For that of course we must have strong and correct leaders.

triesti said...

@colson.. oh you bet I did/do. They say I'm judes, bitchy, to the point mom keeps asking people in front of me: what do you think she needs to change with herself (in order to get a hubby).
To be honest, I take Dutch 'rudeness' anyday.. at least I know they are honest about it so I know where I stand, with Indonesian I dont always know with their flimsy act.

@harry.. I'm not tired, I am ashamed being Indonesian each time I read stupid things our so called leaders did. I've stopped reading the news in the last couple of weeks.

vira said...

hii salam kenal iya dari vira .. :)
jangan lupa mapir keweb vira iya di vira mau berbagi pengalaman nih.:)
wah bagus juga iya blog ka2 ... ^_^ good luck iya.....

David said...

Yep, as much as I would like to say they are everywhere, but I totally agree, for some reason Indonesia really takes the cake. I and my Indonesian wife know all too well from personal experience. We too are sick to death of their insecurities, their petty envy, their jealousy, their backstabbing efforts to bring each other down and their superficial opportunism. As much as I love Indonesia, we can't help but love our freedom here in the west away fro the Indonesian hypocrisy.

triesti said...

@vira salam kenal juga.

@david at least I'm not alone.